Transvestia

My concern now is to find ways to deepen the under- standing between TVs and their wives by airing some of th the little things that bother me, for if you can remove the small, tiresome irritations pearls of understanding may result. I have become convinced that transvestism is harmless, that it has nothing to do with homosexuality and that if it gives a TV pleasure, he should be able to indulge in it in moderation. Moderation is the joker in that statement. Too many TVs seem to go from furtive dressing once a month or at even longer intervals, to dressing several times a week regularly. How much of this change comes from reading about others who go out dressed all the time and from meeting other TVs who do so, and how much is natural evolution is hard to say, since no two TVs are alike. However, very few wives really like constant dressing on the part of their husbands. We married you because you were a nice person and a man in short a husband. Had we wanted a "sister" or

a roommate" we would have found another girl.

Some of you have wives who seemed to understand at first, then turned violently against it. It is just pos- sible that if you think back objectively over recent months, you will realize that the "sister" is becoming more and more in evidence, more and more demanding and more and more competitive with your wife. You really can't blame your wife if she blows her stack when she counts the shoes in your closet and hers and finds you have the most! She is a full-time girl and needs to be well-dressed as such. You are a leisure-time girl and don't need the lion's share of the clothing budget. Incidentally, we also want you to continue to look "sharp" as men, so that we can be proud of you when you escort us as a husband.

In the area of public acceptance of cross-dressing and how far a TV can and should expect to go, there is a tendency to conclude from reading TRANSVESTIA and The Mirror that the ultimate goal of every TV is to dress fully and go out regularly. Moderation is mentioned, but there are very few guide-lines on how to achieve it, nor in the face of the fantasies written by various TVs is it made to seem very desirable. The fact is that few TVs have the physical build which makes them very ac- ceptable as women, so their chances of really passing are